Gob wrote:Good news Alice, and good to see you back.
Thank you Gob
You always make me feel welcome, no matter how long I've been 'away'!!
I know I'm an infrequent visitor nowadays, but this place isn't forgotten.

Sometimes if I haven't been here for a while I feel that I missed heaps - this is sort of like a little club and there is lots of little mini-interactioning going on, and when I've only got very limited time to look in it can sometimes feel like that person at the party who knows a lot of people by name but doesn't really know them much more than that, and doesn't want to barge in on conversations that are already in progress. Not that anyone treats you in any unfriendly way, but you just feel that you're on the peripheral. That wasn't meant in any way as an insult, but as an explanation for why, if I can't visit much, I tend to lurk more than post sometimes when I do drop in. (I found that at EP's site as well - but much, much more therethan here. They were/are a lovely bunch of people but very closely involved and nowadays they'd all be friends outside of the forum - so to just visit there every now and then I ended up feeling like a stranger looking in on a closed, private club. I ended up 'lurking' less and less and then of course it's a catch 22 because the less you even lurk, the more you feel out of the loop - so as a result I actually stopped really visiting there ages ago. Here doesn't feel quite as 'private' and 'closed' and I feel more comfortable dropping in out of the blue, making a random comment and disappearing again; but obviously if I keep doing that then over time I will feel more like a 'visitor' than 'one of the family', if that makes sense. But I'm trying to continue to show my presence here a little bit whenever I can, so I don't lose the commection here altogether. I hope that all made sense!!)
