MajGenl.Meade wrote:Why is it okay for religious people to mock the nonreligious, or those of a different religion?
I don't know anyone who thinks that is OK. What a pity you (and she) had that experience together. Rather than generalize about "religious people", I'd be asking my brother/sister and the spouse why they are failing to bring up their daughter properly.
I do know Episcopalians, RCs, Baptists, Presbies, Methodists, Lutherans who have been born from "above" or "again", since the word means both. Some others, I believe, don't think if it in quite those terms but they have been anyway.
All Christians who have received the Holy Spirit have been "re-born". They must have been because Jesus said so.
Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Nicodemus said to him, “How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother’s womb and be born?” Jesus answered, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’ "
According to how I was raised in the Episcopal faith, I was graced with the holy spirit at baptism and so not born again in the sense of Baptists, as I understand it and as my sister and brother-in-law have tried to evangelize to me the need for me to accept their understanding of the Bible, etc. Furthermore, according to my sister's faith, I was hell bound because I believed in and recited the Nicene Creed.
Anyway, since then I've lost all faith in organized religion and am no longer a Christian of any brand. I find the world - this planet, and the billions of galaxies in the universe, and however many more universes there are out there - incredible beyond explanation by any of the small-minded petty stories offered by any religion created by men.
I am very happy in this system of belief - or non-belief - much more so than I ever was in the 30-some years I spent as a Christian. So please, don't anybody feel the need to evangelize.
And my comment about small-minded petty stories is simply my realization which I'm sharing only to clarify why I've rejected organized religion. I don't mean to insult anybody. I have no problem with religious people who don't use their religions to oppress or harm other people.
As to my nieces and nephew: they were raised very religious - my sister married a pastor's son, and they attend her father-in-law's church, so you can imagine the degree of influence religion has had in their lives. Church at least 2x/week, plus Awana, plus the two younger children attended a Christian school for most of grade school (they were home-schooled for a year, but my sister couldn't take dealing with them all day), jr. high and part of high school - they both finished out school in public school, because their parents could no longer afford private school tuition.
My oldest niece still attends church, but I don't think she's terribly religious in her heart - she appeases her parents, who are still funneling her money at a fairly high rate at 26 years of age and have raised her 7 year old son for about 70% of his life.
My nephew is now an atheist, which freaked out his parents to no end and got him kicked out of the house. He's the only kid going to college full-time, however, so they relented and let him move back - he's also the hardest working of the kids and hasn't been in any legal trouble and didn't get anybody knocked up yet.
My youngest niece got knocked up at 17 and was made to keep the baby and get married, but the marriage soured within a year and she's now living with a friend while her baby is being raised by her parents for the majority of the time. I don't believe my niece attends church except on rare occasion to please her folks and so far as I know, she's also apathetic about religion to the point of considering herself nearly an atheist.
For the record, I've never talked to them about their religion - nothing negative whatsoever. I lived there for six weeks when I was unemployed; it was a great experience to be that close with them all, and out of respect for my sister I attended church every Sunday, prayed over every meal and said not a single bad word about religion.
When my nephew contacted me a year or so ago specifically to ask me questions when he was exploring his feelings regarding rejecting his faith and all faith, I just told him 'to thine own self be true'.
I think it's interesting that three children raised in such a conservative Christian home have gone so far off the skids with regard to faith and/or general morality. Both girls knocked up out of wedlock, neither married to baby daddy, one has had serious issues with the law, one is wasting her potential in a huge way - one is a pretty level-headed kid, but no longer believes in God.
For the record, my sister and brother-in-law are very good parents and have a very strong work ethic, etc.