1) your opening posts are the statement of the grievance, no cut and paste quotes from this or other threads please. Once these statements have been made I will ask questions for points I think need clarification.
2) Remember this forum is visible to all please be absolutely sure that what you say you want to be read by everyone on here.
3) No-one else on the board is to discuss the contents of this thread anywhere else on the board.
That's all if you're happy with this, let's go.
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The Hen's grievance:
My grievance is that Lo has posted that, due to an apparent long standing "phobia" of dying a virgin, I willingly gave away my virginity at the age of nine in an intimate encounter, and that I have posted as such
on the CSB.
I have provided evidence that this would have been impossible as:
1. Until recently, I had only posted about being underage when I lost my virginity. I had never identified what age that was. Therefore there is no evidence that I was willingly (or otherwise) "deflowered"at nine years of age.
2. In order for me to have had a longstanding phobia of dying a virgin at the age of nine, I would have needed to understand the concept of virginity and the ability to lose ones virginity prior to being nine. I was starting to understand the concept of where babies came from at that age, but I wouldn't go so far as to say I understood that you were a virgin if you hadn't "loved somebody very much".
3. My virginity was willingly and joyfully given to my boyfriend when I was 15years and 350days old. It was a wholly unsatisfying experience. (There is probably no need for me to have included that last snippet of information. But as that is about the only thing this Board doesn't know about me losing my virginity, I thought I may as well post it.)
4. If I had made any such post on the CSB, why does nobody remember this? Why has nobody referred to this post until now? Was Gob not concerned for my mental well-being when I, supposedly, posted on the CSB that I willingly gave up my virginity at the age of nine?
Why did Steve and Editec not look for that post to prove that I was an insatiable nymphomanic that has an inner need and desire both for sex, and to constantly post about it?
Why is Lo the only person to 'retain' any knowledge of how this post on losing my virginity at age nine?
My grievance is that Lo has posted that, due to an apparent long standing "phobia" of dying a virgin, I willingly gave away my virginity at the age of nine in an intimate encounter, and that I have posted as such
on the CSB.
I have provided evidence that this would have been impossible as:
1. Until recently, I had only posted about being underage when I lost my virginity. I had never identified what age that was. Therefore there is no evidence that I was willingly (or otherwise) "deflowered"at nine years of age.
2. In order for me to have had a longstanding phobia of dying a virgin at the age of nine, I would have needed to understand the concept of virginity and the ability to lose ones virginity prior to being nine. I was starting to understand the concept of where babies came from at that age, but I wouldn't go so far as to say I understood that you were a virgin if you hadn't "loved somebody very much".
3. My virginity was willingly and joyfully given to my boyfriend when I was 15years and 350days old. It was a wholly unsatisfying experience. (There is probably no need for me to have included that last snippet of information. But as that is about the only thing this Board doesn't know about me losing my virginity, I thought I may as well post it.)
4. If I had made any such post on the CSB, why does nobody remember this? Why has nobody referred to this post until now? Was Gob not concerned for my mental well-being when I, supposedly, posted on the CSB that I willingly gave up my virginity at the age of nine?
Why did Steve and Editec not look for that post to prove that I was an insatiable nymphomanic that has an inner need and desire both for sex, and to constantly post about it?
Why is Lo the only person to 'retain' any knowledge of how this post on losing my virginity at age nine?
Bah!
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Testing posting using loCAs rights.
ETA. loCA please log out of the board and back again there are no problems with your posting rights.
ETA. loCA please log out of the board and back again there are no problems with your posting rights.
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Can I add to my grievance that I find Lo's refusal to participate in this mediation extremely frustrating.
I find her reasons given to be spurious, (eg earthquake and lack of permissions).
I can certainly understand that an earthquake would set you back a bit on being up to date with what is occurring on the Board, but I would have also thought that this thread would have (or should have) been one of her priorities. Not having the correct permissions to post in this forum appears to not have been the case either.
So, I guess it is a case of waiting.
However, what happens when the week is over and Lo hasn't posted here?
Can this thread be reactivated should she decide to join in posting again?
I find her reasons given to be spurious, (eg earthquake and lack of permissions).
I can certainly understand that an earthquake would set you back a bit on being up to date with what is occurring on the Board, but I would have also thought that this thread would have (or should have) been one of her priorities. Not having the correct permissions to post in this forum appears to not have been the case either.
So, I guess it is a case of waiting.
However, what happens when the week is over and Lo hasn't posted here?
Can this thread be reactivated should she decide to join in posting again?
Bah!
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What happens after the week is up will be handed over to the rest of the board to decide.
To paraphrase loCA "mediation takes patience". Mediation also takes all parties to succeed, right now we don't have all parties.
To paraphrase loCA "mediation takes patience". Mediation also takes all parties to succeed, right now we don't have all parties.
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Testing testing uno, dos, tres... Can you hear me now?
Preview works, confirm if this post was sucessful.
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My grievance is: On this <quote>No rules</quote> board, I seem to be subject to a lot of rules, that change at random ...these are primarily determined by the clique, which are encouraged/promoted by Hen, while the rest of the members seem satisfied with self moderation; the ignore feature, or else they don't care.
Those that choose to ignore, are often goaded by the clique to view/participate in that which they don't enjoy, by hijacked threads or strawmen based on false rules.
While it's a "Free Speech" forum, meaning free to heed or ignore; the clique manipulates the above, and blames the lack of enjoyment on I, La Loca.
I do not seek any greater than usual attention, yet somehow the fault is mine, when the clique gets obsessed with me, because I do no conform to their random rule-making.
My biggest grievance: The Hypocrisy
Over the past decade, Hen has defended the Gob in his non-conformity/dissension on other forums; to the point she and he have been banned/driven off other net sites.
...while on their own forum, a slight personal rift is blown out of proportion, to suggest 'it's bad for the board', and the clique is indoctrinated to believe that.
Those that choose to ignore, are often goaded by the clique to view/participate in that which they don't enjoy, by hijacked threads or strawmen based on false rules.
While it's a "Free Speech" forum, meaning free to heed or ignore; the clique manipulates the above, and blames the lack of enjoyment on I, La Loca.
I do not seek any greater than usual attention, yet somehow the fault is mine, when the clique gets obsessed with me, because I do no conform to their random rule-making.
My biggest grievance: The Hypocrisy
Over the past decade, Hen has defended the Gob in his non-conformity/dissension on other forums; to the point she and he have been banned/driven off other net sites.
...while on their own forum, a slight personal rift is blown out of proportion, to suggest 'it's bad for the board', and the clique is indoctrinated to believe that.
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Thanks loCA
Could you point out where rules have been imposed on you. Links to threads please.
Also in response to Hen could you be wrong in the recollection of the house elf story?
Could you point out where rules have been imposed on you. Links to threads please.
Also in response to Hen could you be wrong in the recollection of the house elf story?
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Cheers Daisy. (They were imps and not elves.)
In what way do you think I could be wrong on my recollection?
My dad's house definitely had an unexplained phenomena that was experienced by more than myself. I named the phenomena 'imps' due to the mischief factor.
Though I must also add, the house imp story really is a complete side track with nothing to do with anything as at as far as I can see. Other than being a completely 'left of centre' experience that I sometimes re-tell, (along with others), that Lo seems to have twisted to mean that because she remembered it, it was evidence that I also admitted to giving away my virginity at nine years of age. (Even though the story I told, that Lo quoted, had nothing to do with any sexual encounter.)
In what way do you think I could be wrong on my recollection?
My dad's house definitely had an unexplained phenomena that was experienced by more than myself. I named the phenomena 'imps' due to the mischief factor.
Though I must also add, the house imp story really is a complete side track with nothing to do with anything as at as far as I can see. Other than being a completely 'left of centre' experience that I sometimes re-tell, (along with others), that Lo seems to have twisted to mean that because she remembered it, it was evidence that I also admitted to giving away my virginity at nine years of age. (Even though the story I told, that Lo quoted, had nothing to do with any sexual encounter.)
Bah!
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Sorry Hen that q was directed at loCA
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To be honest loCA I would have expected you to already have some of the evidence ready.
But if you can get this ready by tonight I would be grateful.
Also to refer back to my earlier question.
Is it possible that you misremembered Hen's house Imp story?
But if you can get this ready by tonight I would be grateful.
Also to refer back to my earlier question.
Is it possible that you misremembered Hen's house Imp story?
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Daisy, I'm ready with you second question; I'm afraid I'm multi-tasking my life right now (it is tax time as well).
In all honestly, I did consider that I could be recalling someone else's story; however there was corroborating testimony of Gob's following her's- with his stating that he had also heard the imps later, in spite of his deafness.
She made a post; Gob followed it with a confirmation. I would have to have misremembered two stories, of people with characteristics similar to Hen and Gob.
In all honestly, I did consider that I could be recalling someone else's story; however there was corroborating testimony of Gob's following her's- with his stating that he had also heard the imps later, in spite of his deafness.
She made a post; Gob followed it with a confirmation. I would have to have misremembered two stories, of people with characteristics similar to Hen and Gob.
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The imps were silent and Gob has never corroborated my story on-line.
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Bah!
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So where does her losing her virginity to gob at 9 years old to a chorus of house imps which seems to be the implication you made?
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As you have 'misremembered' me losing my viriginity at nine years of age, 'misremembering' other aspects of my life that you were not privy to is a very likely possibility.loCAtek wrote:I would have to have misremembered two stories, of people with characteristics similar to Hen and Gob.
Bah!
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How's your tax going Lo?
Have you managed to finish it yet?
I am surprised time is needed to research your grievance. It should be cut and dried for you to identify the threads where you have been subject to a lot of rule changes. I know if this had happened to me, I would be easily able to identify where it had happened.
BTW, Plan B has never been sold as either a "No Rules" forum OR a Free Speech forum.
It just is what it is.
It is a Board with no moderators that tries to get things done in accordance with what the membership thinks.
Decisions are never taken arbitrarily.
So do yourself a favour and post the links.
Have you managed to finish it yet?
I am surprised time is needed to research your grievance. It should be cut and dried for you to identify the threads where you have been subject to a lot of rule changes. I know if this had happened to me, I would be easily able to identify where it had happened.
BTW, Plan B has never been sold as either a "No Rules" forum OR a Free Speech forum.
It just is what it is.
It is a Board with no moderators that tries to get things done in accordance with what the membership thinks.
Decisions are never taken arbitrarily.
So do yourself a favour and post the links.
Bah!