Lo's Inquisition

[PMS Princess]

She could always hope to cash in on that life insurance policy ...



No offence intended PMSP.

no worries

[loCAtek]

Wow.




Once again, as already posted, in this thread;

PMSP, think about this logically for a second; you say you have to keep tabs on me, because the Mortgage affects his credit rating.

Did it occur to you that I'd be doing much better financially, if my Ex hadn't stolen ten years of my income and my life savings?

Think: He created this situation; and now you're using it as an excuse to judge me.


Really?



I bet you think keeping tabs was all your idea, too. ~sigh


All I can say is- keep your accounts seperate and/or draft a really solid prenup.

Sure, he'll say he's doing wise investing "for OUR retirement" by taking charge of the finances; but he's not thinking of anyone but himself, and his greed.


Good luck.

BTW She claims to follow me because his name is still on the Mortgage; it is.

However, she's left out how I tried to get it removed over five years ago. This was after my Ex tried to intimidate my loan co, so much so, they called me and exclaimed, "We have a situation!!!" I thought the problem was so great that he was holed up in thier lobby in an explosive vest, threatening to press a detonator... Turns out he was just such a massive a-hole that they couldn't stand him anymore, and was nearly about to do the illegal which was change the policy themselves.

Regardless, I agreed.

I said I would change it.

...

I haven't kept him on it out of spite; I just can't afford to get him off it.

It would take canceling the current loan, and opening a new one with a 20K deposit, which I don't have. I told the officers to tell him this, and if he could pay it with the available funds which he stole from me, I would be glad to accommodate him.

As of this date, he refuses to cooperate, and instead chooses to stalk me.

...

If there are any business matters that need addressing; how about sending a letter? an email? Neither of those addresses have changed in over ten years, while this stalking is so gauche.

I've asked twice [three, no four times] now; could you just send me a private letter or email if there are business matters that need discussing? However, they insist on just trailing me, like that's going to make me shit money, that they can steal again, further.

Certainly, if I could get the Ex off my mortgage, I would. I understand there is no reason for retaining him on it; other than I don't have the funds to remove him.




He does, he's stolen more than enough finances from me.




...but blames me for this situation, in order to stalk me.



Typical. ... he just wants an excuse to obsess about me; that hasn't changed since Junior High.

[Gob]

[loCAtek]

So, you're a hippo. So what?

[The Hen]

What is your intention Lo. have you lodged your complaint.

I just don't understand what you are trying to achieve here.

You state you don't want PSMP banned, What DO YOU WANT?

[loCAtek]

What I always wanted: to post.

Meanwhile, if someone is going to offer up for debate: 'that they know more about my life than I do'; I feel free to post my counter-points as a first person observer to the event(s).

[The Hen]

So you just want to post your life story for your investigating lawyer to .... Do what with?

[loCAtek]

As already stated ( and I ETAed) social media is permissiable as public record.

[Gob]

Well PMSP must be so glad that you've given her solicitor so much of it.

You see PMSP has posted nothing, nothing at all, which could be used against her, whereas you....

[The Hen]

As already stated ( and I ETAed) social media is permissiable as public record.

Yes, but you only have a record of you. plus just because you say it, doesn't mean it is true.

I have learnt that from you.

[Sean]

[loCAtek]

LMAO

[The Hen]

So what do you think your record will prove?

It proves you have thought about his life insurance policy to get you out of financial difficulties, you have not paid your mortgage on a number of times and fucked with your ex's credit rating, you have accused him of stealing from you and your previous lawyer to be corrupt when it was all part of your divorce settlement.

You have claimed it is due to him you are an alcoholic and you have undiagnosed PTSD.

THAT is what I have learnt from YOUR posts.

I hope your investigating lawyer can make something out of that for you. Somehow I doubt it.

[Gob]

[loCAtek]

LMAO

ThX for believing in me I'll let you know, if you know more than the US justice system.

[The Hen]

As already stated ( and I ETAed) social media is permissiable as public record.

Are you trying to make it easier for your ex to have a case against you?

You have posted so much about him recently, if anyone had a case, it possibly would be him not you.

Juss sayin' dear. I don't think you should continue. It is all permissible as public record and PSMP has not really provided much.

[loCAtek]

See above: who said this board was all there was?

[The Hen]

Tthen why bother fucking this board up with your woeful tale? it isn't achieving anything for you.

It's the attention, isn't it.

[loCAtek]

LOL ...other than the evidence?

[Gob]

Ammo for PMSP's solicitor is so easy to come by...

Tell that to my Ex-Blue State Husband. Ex, as in marriage, he still lives in Cali.

There were also a few moments, prior to the marriage while we were still dating, that the mask slipped and he lashed out.

I t continued whenever he was frustrated that I was not fooled, manipulated nor simply obeyed his authority without questioning it. More prevalent was the constant hurtful chicanery, much of which was thinly-veiled cutting me down, all in the name 'trying to help me improve'.
He resorted to that most, since physical pain wasn't intimidating to me; thanks to my mom, I can take that fine and not cry; instead his trying dominate me physically wouldn't work and rather just pissed me off. I wouldn't say I was 'battered', but certainly was abused.
Thus so, the first down-right beating(which happened in the first 7 months of us living together as man & wife), I responded with, "If you ever do that again, I'll call the cops!!!"

The second and last down-right beating was at the end of the marriage; where yes, I had him arrested.
Funny though, he was the one who petitioned for the divorce for, and I quote, "What I did to him!"

The extended emotional rollar-coaster; the last year of escalating threats and violence; and the exposure of the contempt and hatred from someone I thought I was closest to, brought on a lot of stress symptoms. It felt like I'd lost my anchor.
However, I never relented to his scheming, and went through the divorce because quickly enough, I realized that I was much better off without him.

There are still effects sometimes, the alcoholism is big indicator, obviously ..and yeah, that's why the stalking bothers me.

Interestingly, you've both hit upon the crux of human nature: what we won't do for ourselves, we'll often do for the sake of another. ...and no, I'm not trying to come across as some self-righteous, smarmy, holy-rollin' <insert your term for assholierly here>

What it took for me to stand up to my mom(ster), was watching her start to treat my new husband in the same way. As soon as he was 'family', the claws came out and she began her wedeln, bitchin',
"Do this for me!-Do this for me! You're supposed to! - Do this for me! Hissssssssss-snarl-whine-snap I'll eat you up, I love you so!"



It was a rather shocking epiphany, that all this time, I had known where the wild things were; so no, I decided I'd never go into their den again, especially not to put another in harm's way.
Shortly thereafter, I stopped speaking to her, that was over 15 years ago.

Who/whatever it was; it wasn't my mother. So, it wasn't worth it.

On that point, my decision to leave active duty was done by my ex-husband and I. Had it been up to me alone, I would have stayed in the service, but this was a life changing event that we both had to agree on. I see the Genr'l and his wife made their choice to conceive together, and well as the tragic decision; that's what a marriage is all about.