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Admitting he's been HIV positive for the past 4 years:

http://www.today.com/health/charlie-she ... ive-t56391


I still remember where I was when I saw Magic on the news sharing his diagnosis (working a register in the UMaine student union food court); it was huge news.

Is this huge, too . . . or just not, in light of the recent terrorism abroad?

It's huge to celebrity worshipers. When Magic Johnson contracted HIV, he thought he was going to die. This is a different time and not all that surprising considering Sheen's crazy life and drug use.

It's huge in the sense that it is surprising how much the false and sensationalist narrative has not changed in 20 years. Whatever will we do when slut shaming no longer flies when talking about this disease?

Sheen grew up in a post-AIDS world (he is only a little bit older than I am), he knew how to protect himself, and I'm sorry he didn't do a better job. I cringed when he admitted he slept with women since his diagnosis and didn't tell them. Is being concerned about that slut shaming? I don't think so. The blackmail threats he was subjected to, absolutely slut shaming and disgusting.

Slut shaming? More like Charlie seeking to bolster a sagging career by getting some more press coverage. Typical Hollywood.

So far as I see, no one is shaming or attacking him; but he's back in the headlines.

There were articles all over the interwebs speculating that Sheen was HIV positive, and accusing him of intentionally infecting others. So I would say that yes, he was being slut shamed and was coerced into making his HIV status public.

He should be ashamed

Of what, exactly?

Did you watch the whole interview? According to him, he's not failed to inform his sexual partners of his status, and has had unprotected sex with only two partners since becoming HIV positive, both of whom knew his status, his viral loads were indetectable at the time (which makes the risk of transmission infinitesimal - they've studied this stuff over the past 25 years) and they chose to take that risk.

What should he be ashamed of, exactly? His addiction problems? His mental health issues? His HIV status? General moral debauchery?

Guinevere wrote:I cringed when he admitted he slept with women since his diagnosis and didn't tell them. Is being concerned about that slut shaming? I don't think so.

Assuming he was telling the truth, the times when he did not disclose occurred only when condoms were used, plus he was virally suppressed through treatment. The risk of transmission in that scenario is essentially zero. I don't see disclosure as a moral imperative in those circumstances, and anyone who has the expectation that they should be told would be better served by carrying some rapid test kits on their date.

And not for nothing, but nothing sets me off quite so much as the presumably HIV-negative person who feels entitled to know everyone else's serostatus, but who it turns out hasn't been tested in six months, a year or more and in the meantime has been regularly having condomless sex with people who say they are HIV-negative, and might even believe it.

I would have wanted to know, and to have made the judgment myself, thank you very much. That should be my choice, not only his, and that open flow of information should be part of any consensual relationship.

And yes, having condomless sex with someone new requires a discussion and recent HIV testing of both parties.

bigskygal wrote:What should he be ashamed of, exactly? His addiction problems? His mental health issues? His HIV status? General moral debauchery?

The last is sufficient.

I guess we'll see what info comes out, but if it's true he was paying thousands to prostitutes for sex sessions, if they didn't ask they are entirely responsible for that - contracting parties can contract terms.

There is some evidence out there that he was disclosing and they were signing nondisclosure agreements re: his status, then extorting him for cash. Where is the outrage?!

MajGenl.Meade wrote:

bigskygal wrote:What should he be ashamed of, exactly? His addiction problems? His mental health issues? His HIV status? General moral debauchery?

The last is sufficient.

Right, moral prigs feel entitled to judge him for his love of sex, drugs, etc.

Forget if he actually intentionally harmed anyone by his viral status, he's contemptible for his lifestyle alone.

He's an addict. He needs help. Hopefully he'll get it now.

bigskygal wrote:

MajGenl.Meade wrote:

bigskygal wrote:What should he be ashamed of, exactly? His addiction problems? His mental health issues? His HIV status? General moral debauchery?

The last is sufficient.

Right, moral prigs feel entitled to judge him for his love of sex, drugs, etc.

Forget if he actually intentionally harmed anyone by his viral status, he's contemptible for his lifestyle alone.

He's an addict. He needs help. Hopefully he'll get it now.

He has lived an entirely self-indulgent life. He is an appetite wrapped in skin. Kim Jong Un without the ability to kill whoever he likes.


I don't personally care if he gets help.


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bigskygal wrote:

MajGenl.Meade wrote:

bigskygal wrote:What should he be ashamed of, exactly? His addiction problems? His mental health issues? His HIV status? General moral debauchery?

The last is sufficient.

Right, moral prigs feel entitled to judge him for his love of sex, drugs, etc.

Forget if he actually intentionally harmed anyone by his viral status, he's contemptible for his lifestyle alone.

He's an addict. He needs help. Hopefully he'll get it now.

Oh I'd say decent people with good societal standards rather than moral prigs. He's a disgrace

ETA and I might well be the same way if faced with the same temptations at a certain time

He is Lord Byron without the literary talent or output.

Dante Gabriel Rossini* without the poetry and painting to offset his self-indulgence.


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*
Founder of the pre-Raphaelite Brotherhood in London. An amazing painter and famous lover of Wombats. Died at 51 of chloral hydrate and alcohol abuse.

I was being too high culture for you wasn't I? sorry. I should have known the references were too abstruse for you.


"He is like Ralph Kramden without the pathos". How's that? More in your league?


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no, you were being too gay for me... (am I allowed to say that?)

typo, should be Rossetti.

Those thieving magpies are always buggering up keyboards!