There's a guy I have known for many years; we used to spend a lot of time together in the course of our work with AIDS organizations, but lately have fallen out of touch a bit. We are also Facebook friends, which I don't use much at all, but which he uses to communicate to me along with all of his other friends about things going on in his life and other events I presume he believes will be of interest (which to me they usually aren't). Tonight I and about 40 other people received a non-personalized invitation via Facebook to his wedding, which is at the end of the month in Prince Edward Island. Leaving aside the fact that he isn't such a close friend that I would consider making a special trip that far away to attend his wedding, it felt more like a cattle call than an invitation. I don't expect everyone to send out the engraved linen paper things, but if he really wanted to invite me, would it have been too much effort to send a personal email saying "hey, if you're planning on coming our way, it would be nice to see you at our wedding", even if he wanted to refer me to his Facebook wedding page in order to keep track of the RSVPs.
I replied that I wasn't able to attend and wished them every happiness. I restrained myself from commenting on how technology has destroyed their sense of good manners.
The Etiquette of Social Networking
The Etiquette of Social Networking
"The dildo of consequence rarely comes lubed." -- Eileen Rose
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"Colonialism is not 'winning' - it's an unsustainable model. Like your hairline." -- Candace Linklater
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Welcome to the 21st century.
It seems that actually sending a real invitation on paper through the mails is passe.
Sad, indeed.
It seems that actually sending a real invitation on paper through the mails is passe.
Sad, indeed.
Your collective inability to acknowledge this obvious truth makes you all look like fools.
yrs,
rubato
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Has he decided to catch the other bus Scoot?
“If you trust in yourself, and believe in your dreams, and follow your star. . . you'll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren't so lazy.”
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No, he's marrying a man. Legal here, dontcha know.
"The dildo of consequence rarely comes lubed." -- Eileen Rose
"Colonialism is not 'winning' - it's an unsustainable model. Like your hairline." -- Candace Linklater
"Colonialism is not 'winning' - it's an unsustainable model. Like your hairline." -- Candace Linklater
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I don't think you're obligated to do much more than wish him a 'Happy Nuptials' on his Facebook page; or at most an E-card. If he put that little effort into inviting you, you need only respond in kind.
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Sounds to me like the guy is casting a wide net for wedding gifts....
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Lord Jim wrote:Sounds to me like the guy is casting a wide net for wedding gifts....
As do so many brides to be. At least it will seem to many whether he is guilty of this or not.
I think you did the best you could with what you had Scooter.
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Perhaps it is an indication that they have not accepted the "feminine"side of their relationship and are both playing "the boy"?
Bah!
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The Hen wrote:Perhaps it is an indication that they have not accepted the "feminine"side of their relationship and are both playing "the boy"?
Why would you presume to assume that there has to be a feminine side to a marriage involving 2 men?
Note I say men, not "boys".
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Right, @w is gonna hate it that I agree with her, but my gay friends and acquaintances are all good men, not boys.
There's a few in the shop who ride Harleys (this place seems to be a big Harley Club) and sport lots of tough tattoos, but they're so gay and manly.
There's a few in the shop who ride Harleys (this place seems to be a big Harley Club) and sport lots of tough tattoos, but they're so gay and manly.
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He'd best try casting somewhere else in that case. I don't send gifts for weddings I don't attend, and unless it were my siamese twin, I don't travel 850 miles to go to a wedding.Lord Jim wrote:Sounds to me like the guy is casting a wide net for wedding gifts....
"The dildo of consequence rarely comes lubed." -- Eileen Rose
"Colonialism is not 'winning' - it's an unsustainable model. Like your hairline." -- Candace Linklater
"Colonialism is not 'winning' - it's an unsustainable model. Like your hairline." -- Candace Linklater
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A lot of people do though Scooter. He may figure that if he sends out 40 invites, he'll pick up a few...I don't send gifts for weddings I don't attend
I send a gift to weddings I don't attend if it's the wedding of someone I would have attended but for some reason couldn't. (I have a lot of family and friends on the other side of the country; I recently sent a wedding present for the daughter of a close friend of mine who lives in the DC area, for example. I've known him since college and I've known her since she was little.)
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Sure, if it were someone I was that close to, and something was keeping me from going, I would too.
And he might have just send the invitation out of politeness, not really expecting that anyone this far away would be able to get there, unless they happened to be in the area for some other reason. In which case though, it still would have been nice if the invitations had been a tad more personal than the cyber-equivalent of a poster tacked up on a utility pole.
And he might have just send the invitation out of politeness, not really expecting that anyone this far away would be able to get there, unless they happened to be in the area for some other reason. In which case though, it still would have been nice if the invitations had been a tad more personal than the cyber-equivalent of a poster tacked up on a utility pole.
"The dildo of consequence rarely comes lubed." -- Eileen Rose
"Colonialism is not 'winning' - it's an unsustainable model. Like your hairline." -- Candace Linklater
"Colonialism is not 'winning' - it's an unsustainable model. Like your hairline." -- Candace Linklater
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Oh be fair it's the Facebook-equivalent of a Newsmax Poll.
Okay... There's all kinds of things wrong with what you just said.
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@W it is for precisely the reason that there was a lack of style shown that I referred to the lad as a boy and not a man.
If he had any style he wouldn't be a boy.
If he had any style he wouldn't be a boy.
Bah!