RayThom wrote:When my now 28 year old daughter was dating in high school I told her that it was up to her to draw the limit line, and I hoped she'd followed through with safe behavior. Whenever she started walking out the door I gave her a bit of my standard "be good, and be safe" parting wisdom which she apparently always heeded. Kids behave so much better when they control their choices, and not when told how to act by an authority figure.
My daughter has had a very healthy sex life since her school days and, in almost every case, I was friendly with her partner of choice. If she trusted her boyfriend, in turn, I trusted her. I couldn't be more proud as a father when it comes to the choices she continues to make.
We all have urges and desires, and yes, we must accept and acknowledge them. But that does not mean we must yield to them and act on them. Restraint, after all, is one of the qualities that makes us human and differentiates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.
As my parents taught me, "There's a proper time and a proper place for everything." Sure, the urge to procreate is a powerful force and a certain amount of fumbling around in a darkened movie theater or the back seat of a car at 'Inspiration Point' is to be expected, but in my opinion the idea that having sex with someone is no big deal; it's just another biological process and is no different than eating, sleeping, or moving one's bowels just isn't the proper way of looking at things.
-"BB"-
Yes, I suppose I could agree with you ... but then we'd both be wrong, wouldn't we?