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Would that all girls be blessed with fathers such as him!

Too bad so many of us aren't.

I also thought that this was sage father-daughter advice:

3 and 4 are my favourites.

... said the controlling father raised in the '40s. That type of father couldn't accept the thought of someone damaging his coveted chattel.

I heard similar ultimatums when I was young and dating. I would politely tell my date's father what he needed to hear, and then me and his daughter would get busy doing what young people do at that age once we were down the block.

When my now 28 year old daughter was dating in high school I told her that it was up to her to draw the limit line, and I hoped she'd followed through with safe behavior. Whenever she started walking out the door I gave her a bit of my standard "be good, and be safe" parting wisdom which she apparently always heeded. Kids behave so much better when they control their choices, and not when told how to act by an authority figure.

My daughter has had a very healthy sex life since her school days and, in almost every case, I was friendly with her partner of choice. If she trusted her boyfriend, in turn, I trusted her. I couldn't be more proud as a father when it comes to the choices she continues to make.

Ray, I suspect you didn't read this all the way....

MajGenl.Meade wrote:Ray, I suspect you didn't read this all the way....

I'm sure these ten rules have been updated for the times. Agent Orange was probably used as a substitute for chlorine, or phosgene, or mustard gas.

I have never forgotten a cartoon I saw in the mid-sixties - probably Daily Mirror - mother and father upstairs in the bedroom and father is standing by the window while daughter says goodnight to boyfriend at the front door. "Come back to bed." says the mother. "Remember what you were like when you were that age." "That's exactly the problem" says the father.

RayThom wrote:When my now 28 year old daughter was dating in high school I told her that it was up to her to draw the limit line, and I hoped she'd followed through with safe behavior. Whenever she started walking out the door I gave her a bit of my standard "be good, and be safe" parting wisdom which she apparently always heeded. Kids behave so much better when they control their choices, and not when told how to act by an authority figure.

My daughter has had a very healthy sex life since her school days and, in almost every case, I was friendly with her partner of choice. If she trusted her boyfriend, in turn, I trusted her. I couldn't be more proud as a father when it comes to the choices she continues to make.

We all have urges and desires, and yes, we must accept and acknowledge them.  But that does not mean we must yield to them and act on them.  Restraint, after all, is one of the qualities that makes us human and differentiates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.

As my parents taught me, "There's a proper time and a proper place for everything."  Sure, the urge to procreate is a powerful force and a certain amount of fumbling around in a darkened movie theater or the back seat of a car at 'Inspiration Point' is to be expected, but in my opinion the idea that having sex with someone is no big deal; it's just another biological process and is no different than eating, sleeping, or moving one's bowels just isn't the proper way of looking at things.

-"BB"-