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[oldr_n_wsr]

Sorry to hear that Guin. Thoughts and prayers headed your way.

My MIL is being moved to hospice care today.

[Gob]

Condolences to both families, O-n-W and Guin.

[MajGenl.Meade]

Goodness - my mum last year and now all these. I am so sorry Guin and oldr.

[Guinevere]

Oldr, I hope she is comfortable and secure and you call can spend as much time with her as you need.

Mom is stable today, perhaps a teeny bit improved from yesterday, but still not many answers or solutions. My sister and I were just getting back to a semblance of normalcy, and now we are both already exhausted. So it goes, but I am scrambling down in the bottom of Pandora's box looking for that hope . . .

[oldr_n_wsr]

Well, they decided not to put her in hospice. There is a small chance at recovery so they are taking that route. My wifes nephew is a Physicians Assistant so he gives us the "doctors opinion" along with the emotions of being a family member.

I've been keeping quiet about what I would do if it were my mother but I did tell my wife if it were me in that bed I would want a cup full of pills (oxys, roxys, etc) and a bottle of JD and take the decision out of my families hands.
But it's not me in the bed.

Hope all goes well Guin. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and my family.

[TPFKA@W]

I had not seen this thread til today. I am sorry for all who have trials and tribulations with family members. I have stood in your shoes with my own parents and in-laws. I have also borne witness to similar as the nurse presiding. There are no words really....

[oldr_n_wsr]

The snow today is going to put a damper on visiting mom. We'll try and get there, but who knows. Grateful my son and his girlfriend are here.

[oldr_n_wsr]

Mom is back on "comfort care". No meds, just morphine and oxygen. She expressed her wish to die during one of her "lucid" moments. The docs heard it too. Only a matter of time now.
And tomorrow is my father in laws birthday.

[Lord Jim]

I know what a draining and agonizing emotional roller coaster a time like this is...

My heart really goes out to you and Guin and your families.

[Crackpot]

in my experience hospice (provided the family can accept it) can be a wonderful thing.

[oldr_n_wsr]

She's now in hospice. She's up and down. They didn't give her morphine sunday and she didn't mention she was in pain and she got to see a bunch of the reletives. Saturday we brought a DVD player and she got to watch Abbot and costello meets frankenstien. She likes that movie. She was in and out while watching, but when she was in, she had a smile on her face.

[Gob]

Nice thing to do for He O-n-W.

Hen is still spending all her waking hours ministering to the mother-in-law, who is becoming increasingly crotchety and ungrateful.

[oldr_n_wsr]

I have to say my MIL was never like that. Always a sweet lady. She could barely walk even with a walker and she would always ask if I wanted something to drink (usually she asked if I wanted a beer as we never told her of my problem) and then start getting up to go get it for me.

My wife got "the call" yesterday at work but when she got to hospice, her mom had stabalized again.

Tell Hen my thoughts and prayers are with her and her mom.