I would venture to guess, that people calling this a "minor difficulty" are in a very small minority. If not, do you think the feds would call on billions of dollars from BP (and themselves) to fund the help?rubato wrote:People who kill themselves in the face of a minor difficulty (see above for examples) have done something disgraceful, to be ashamed of. They have been weak when their families and community needed them to be strong and help each other out.
I am not arguing what they "should have done". Clearly comitting suicide is not the answer.
What you did is commendable but was the "knee jerk" reaction to the situation at hand and in the first moments after the disaster. People do amazing thing "right away" but find themselves lost afterward. Plenty of people were all over the place helping after 9/11 only to have difficulty coping after the immediate job was completed.Having been through an earthquake where the houses on both sides of mine were totally destroyed and mine was rendered uninhabitable I can say from experience that is when we need each other. Police and fire were overwhelmed in the first 30 seconds and outside help would not arrive for a long time. I shut off the gas for my house and then went up the street shutting it off where the pipes were obviously damaged and likely to leak, I finished my side of the street and started down the other one and met the neighbor across the street with his wrench doing the same thing. I was glad to see him because it meant someone else was trying to sort through what we needed to do to keep things from getting horribly worse; if a fire started it is doubtful if the fire dept would get there at all.
From a volly's point of view there are at least three stages of a disaster. First stage deals with the immediate situation at hand with no thought process at all. Most people either freeze here or go do without even thinking of what happens next.
The second stage is to handle immediate needs of those around, medical, food, shelter etc.
Only after all the pressing needs does the third stage kick in, "what am I going to do now? How can I continue when my livelyhood has been pulled out from under me with no end in sight? The people commiting suicide did not do it an hour/day/week after the disaster. They did it when reality of their dire situation kicked in and I am sure after much thought.
As I said before, this was/is a major disaster IMHO.People who kill themselves in a major difficulty or disaster I can be more sympathetic with.