Moved this over from the "HARDWARE" room

[RayThom]

... My mom used to tell me that every time she washed my underpants.

I think much the same. To some degree -- some lesser, some more so -- we are all skid marks on the fabric of time.

[Bicycle Bill]

I think most of us leave marks we are unaware of;

My mom used to tell me that every time she washed my underpants.

Well, THAT lowered the level a bit.....

BSG, I appreciate the offer, but what you just wrote helps more than you might have imagined — especially those last three paragraphs.  And I too will join Big RR and the others to say that the marks we leave are there; they just may not show to us.  I'd like to recount for you a story about my father.

He graduated from college and became a schoolteacher of math, science, and phy ed back in the 1940s and 1950s (specialization back then? HA!!), got married, and started a family (me).  Then, when he realized that I was on the way, he retired from schoolteaching and took a job with what was then known as the TRANE Company as a research lab tech (he had a strong math/science background, of course), working there for almost 30 more years until his ultimate retirement at age 65.  He too felt that he had left little or nothing to mark his passage through this world, and would sometime lament that fact himself.   But when he passed away in 1994 at age 77, the number of people, by then in their 50s and early 60s themselves, who were unknown to us but came up to my mother and I at his funeral to offer their memories of my father from his teaching years some 40 years earlier — made both my mother and I realize that this was the best monument or remembrance that my father could have ever had.  Obelisks may crumble; statues to heroes may corrode or be replaced by other "greater" heroes; the name on a building, park, mountain, or monolith may be changed at whim.  But to be a part of the formation of someone's life so that they remember, recall, and practice those lessons a lifetime later; this is a treasure far greater than anything else found on this earth.  So every so often I remember that and start realizing that I too have touched certain people's lives as well.

I know I've got friends, acquaintances, co-workers, and others I can call on from time to time.  But there is just something in me that wishes that, when I get off of work on the second shift and head home at midnight, that there would be someone there waiting for me, someone who was happy to see me, instead of just unlocking the door and walking into a dark, empty house.  I'll muddle through.  But thanks for the offer, and I will keep it in mind.

-"BB"-

[oldr_n_wsr]

we are all skid marks on the fabric of time.

I am stealing that line.

that there would be someone there waiting for me, someone who was happy to see me,

I am eternally grateful my wife didn't kick me out/divorce me for my drinking as she would have taken the dog (who is the one who ALWAYs is happy to see me).
I'm going to hell for that one

[kmccune]

Stay out of Hell ,you dont belong there .

[oldr_n_wsr]

Stay out of Hell ,you dont belong there .

I can only hope that is true.

[MG McAnick]

I'm going to hell for that one

Possibly soon, if she reads Plan B

[kmccune]

We were told we could experience the Kingdom now and good friends go along ways toward the realization of that promise .Lets hope this meeting of similar minds generates some of this camaraderie and good will ,all too often the jobs I worked on lacked this connectivity as each tried to catch the Bosses eye and wanted to be the Alpha Brownie .

[Guinevere]

So having caught up a bit, and reading this thread and the original --- I just want to say BB --- CALL HER, dammit. Or I WILL.

(ok, I won't -I don't meddle that much, but I really had to sit on my hands and not show her this thread). Tell her what you've told us.


If she says no, so be it, you're no lonelier than you are now. But you never know what could happen. Life is full of possibilities.

[rubato]

Life is only so long. Take a risk. You already know where the other path leads.


yrs,
rubato

[MajGenl.Meade]

When he's right....

[Jarlaxle]

Have to agree with Ray and Datsun ,Ray ,in the joint you are better off in solitary ( the Dome" (Dorm) enviroment as my counselor or whatever called it sucks ) the weight pile wasnt nothing but a pissing contest.
My wife has been away for 8 months now (comes to visit every so often -no conjugal ) and I absolutely love being more or less single again ,for awhile anyway ,I get a heck of a lot more done and due to this and reduced work schedule my health is improving . I try to reach out but people on my level are usually a lot more wealthy or busy blowing the Boss to have the time to have anything to do with me.(I dont do Brownie ) the Boss is no better then I am(usually a lot more wealthy though in their respective heirarchies ) I will die poor but undefeated .
I have the Gandi view on a lot of my fellow Christians .

Wait...your wife is in prison?!

[liberty]

I married a woman in 1969 we are still married and still in love. She said that she wants to die before me; she doesn’t want to live without me and I feel the same about her. However, she has threatened to kill me couple times for obsessing over history, as she puts it. She says she doesn’t care if this is or that is wrong she just wants to enjoy the movie.

[RayThom]

This turn of events is very reminiscent of James Stevens, the butler in "The Remains of the Day."

[rubato]

This turn of events is very reminiscent of James Stevens, the butler in "The Remains of the Day."

Let us hope it is less sadly the case in future.

Perceptive comparison though.


yrs,
rubato

[kmccune]

Probably help Her attitude ,she moved about 300 miles away, a"geographical escape", by now hopefully She realizes that you cant escape from yourself and as long as you take the same person along ,happiness will elude you. Shine where you are!
"We are but objects in space ".
Uh Jar ,did I say my wife was in prison ? Read between the lines.

[MGMcAnick]

Read between the lines.

I think Jaraxle did, but he misread. Obviously if she were locked up, she wouldn't be coming for visits, conjugal or otherwise.

[Jarlaxle]

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[TPFKA@W]

I decry the peri-menopausal decline in desire. At 40-45 I was never more into sexual gratification. It was like some kind of hormonal last hurrah! After age 50 and a total hysterectomy things slowed down to a steady hum, but it sure ain't over! The real beauty of sex at this age is no possibility of pregnancy! I wish I had been so liberated in my 20's and 30's.

[Gob]

Tell me about it, her indoors just gets more demanding every year.

[TPFKA@W]