Lo's Inquisition

[The Hen]

You state at one point that your "investigating lawyer" would be interested in this thread.

If we go back to PMSP's "stalker" post from this Board we have the reason for WHY your ex is keeping tabs on you.

If you continually fall behind on the mortgage payments for your house and HIS credit rating is affected by that because YOU won't remove him from the mortgage, I think that is a clear reason WHY he might be interested in keeping tabs on you.

So you lie, cheat, get into debt that affects others who are trying to live their life without you, THEN we can see a very valid reason for checking on your life.

He probably knows when you will default from your behaviours here. I bet he has concerns regarding the next payment That is due to be made.

You can also stop insulting the professionalism of my husband.

He has you pegged exactly. and it isn't PTSD dear. You don't have that.

A personality disorder? Probably.

PTSD? Definately not.

[Gob]

Just a quick reminder of why this thread was started in the first place;

I'm puzzled. I couldn't find the thread this comes from.

Surely our new poster PMSP wouldn't post on board the contents of a PM or email without provocation?

That would be a lot like stalking.

I must misunderstand - right, PMSP?

viewtopic.php?f=5&t=6796&p=84226#p84226

[/helpy-helperton]

Thanks Sue! I'm not sure how to do that. I was just trying to move the discussion out of Springsteen.

And if we go to the "Springsteen" thread, we find that WHO started to derail it by bringing up Lo's relationship with her ex?

Ah PMSP, all you've heard is his latest at Starbucks... well, there's much more to him.

BTW have you been to San Jose Stonehenge?

...and how's Mugwump?

[Gob]

For Lo now to be claiming to have PTSD is so fucking funny I should move this thread to "Laffs".

[The Hen]

Its just a damn good thing she has access to professional, non psycho-babbling military friends to help her not take responsibility for her actions. That is until she manages to disenfranchise them as well.

[Gob]

The main feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive.


A person with this disorder will also often exhibit impulsive behaviors and have a majority of the following symptoms:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
Identity disturbance, such as a significant and persistent unstable self-image or sense of self
Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)
Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
Emotional instability due to significant reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
Chronic feelings of emptiness
Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
Transient, stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms

[PMS Princess]

I have been diagnosed with PTSD and still under treatment. I'm shaking so on alighter note..

I thought this might help with the stalking claim. Recommended by a stalking expert back in 2010.

http://www.ic3.gov/complaint/default.aspx

[Joe Guy]

I have been diagnosed with PTSD and still under treatment. I'm shaking so on alighter

Just great....

Another twist in the daze of our lives.

Are you willing to share what triggered your PTSD?

I'm a certified professional and everything you post in this thread will be kept strictly confidential. You need not be concerned because I will not share any information that you don't post here.

[Lord Jim]

And while Dr. Joe performs his therapy the rest of us promise to turn our backs and not look....

Afterall, we wouldn't want to be accused of being voyeurs....

[Gob]

That's a new twist, a "stalker" who gives advice on how to prosecute stalkers.

Opens bag of popcorn, cracks a beer, sits back to watch the fun....

[PMS Princess]

I didn't post that to add 'a twist'.
As far as triggers, do you mean the initial incident or what triggers I have?
The 'claim' form was posted by Lo and I was re posting to suggest that she use her own advice.

[Gob]

mustamist that, where did she post it?

[Joe Guy]

I didn't post that to add 'a twist'.
As far as triggers, do you mean the initial incident or what triggers I have?
The 'claim' form was posted by Lo and I was re posting to suggest that she use her own advice.

Both the initial incident and the triggers would be important to know about if I'm going to comment.

I don't understand the 'claim form' reference, but I'm sure I haven't read everything you've written on the subject.

[loCAtek]

Are you now claiming that you have PTSD?

btw - until this thread I don't recall you ever talking about being beaten by your ex-husband, but didn't you imply earlier that it was common knowledge at CSB for nine years?

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Yes.

Well, I did talk about it after a few months following the final fight/divorce( The last assault was in 2003, so that be nine years.); and afterwards when DV came up, I would mention my experinces if they were relevent. It's not something I wear like a badge; but I thought that since I did and do speak of it on occasion in public, that it would be common knowledge.

Did your ex physically abuse you during your entire marriage? How often?

There were also a few moments, prior to the marriage while we were still dating, that the mask slipped and he lashed out.

I t continued whenever he was frustrated that I was not fooled, manipulated nor simply obeyed his authority without questioning it. More prevalent was the constant hurtful chicanery, much of which was thinly-veiled cutting me down, all in the name 'trying to help me improve'.
He resorted to that most, since physical pain wasn't intimidating to me; thanks to my mom, I can take that fine and not cry; instead his trying dominate me physically wouldn't work and rather just pissed me off. I wouldn't say I was 'battered', but certainly was abused.
Thus so, the first down-right beating(which happened in the first 7 months of us living together as man & wife), I responded with, "If you ever do that again, I'll call the cops!!!"

The second and last down-right beating was at the end of the marriage; where yes, I had him arrested.
Funny though, he was the one who petitioned for the divorce for, and I quote, "What I did to him!"

The extended emotional rollar-coaster; the last year of escalating threats and violence; and the exposure of the contempt and hatred from someone I thought I was closest to, brought on a lot of stress symptoms. It felt like I'd lost my anchor.
However, I never relented to his scheming, and went through the divorce because quickly enough, I realized that I was much better off without him.

There are still effects sometimes, the alcoholism is big indicator, obviously ..and yeah, that's why the stalking bothers me.

[The Hen]

~Heh, whether someone watches or not, is not my issue; others voyeurism was not my intent nor desire.

What is your fucking intent then Lo?

If you are so fucking over this and your past relationship with your ex, and you want this to fucking end, why the fuck are you doing this?

Ant chance you can answer that, or are you just fucking revelling in all the lovely negative attention that you have brought on yourself?

Hmmm?

Any chance of an answer Lo, or are you all squishy in your pants now that you can type more about your crappy life?

[Gob]

Are you now claiming that you have PTSD?

It is widely reported that this phrase originated at Stony Stratford ("The Jewel of Milton Keynes"), Buckinghamshire, England. Visitors to Milton Keynes might feel the bar for 'jewel' status is set rather low in that region, although Stony Stratford is indeed a rather pleasant market town.

Stony Stratford, which name derived from 'the stony ford on the Roman road', is located on the old Roman road of Watling Street, now the A5. In the height of the coaching era - the 18th and early 19th centuries - Stony Stratford was an important stopping-off point for mail and passenger coaches travelling between London and the North of England. This coaching history is the source of the supposed origin of the phrase 'cock and bull story'.

The Cock and the Bull were two of the main coaching inns in the town and the banter and rivalry between groups of travellers is said to have resulted in exaggerated and fanciful stories, which became known as 'cock and bull stories'. The two hostelries did, and still do, exist.

By now, you may have noticed the 'widely reported' and 'supposed' adjectives above and picked up that I don't believe a word of it. It is an appealing story but, regrettably, it is little more than that. There's no evidence whatsoever to connect the two inns with the phrase, apart from the coincidence of the two names.

Whisper it not in Stony Stratford if you want to get out alive, but it's more likely that the phrase comes from old folk tales that featured magical animals. The early 17th century French term 'coq-a-l'âne' was glossed in Randle Cotgrave's A Dictionarie of the French and English Tongues, 1611 as meaning:

An incoherent story, passing from one subject to another.

The literal translation of 'du coq à l'âne' is 'from rooster to jackass', which nicely fits the meaning of the term. This was later taken up in Scots as "cockalayne", again with the same meaning. The first citation of 'cock and bull' stories in English is from Robert Burton's The Anatomy of Melancholy, 1621:

"Some mens whole delight is to talk of a Cock and Bull over a pot."
This reference to 'a cock' and 'a bull', which is duplicated in all the early 17th and 18th century citations of the phrase, lends support to the view that the stories were about cocks and bulls, i.e. fanciful tales, rather than stories told in the Cock or the Bull. The early date doesn't entirely rule out the coaching inn story, as coaches were used for transport in England prior to 1621 and both establishments were in business before that date but, in my view, that derivation is a 20th century invention.

What is missing from the Stony Stratford tale, and this is commonplace in folk-etymological sources that attempt to connect language with a particular place (see by hook and by crook, for example), is any link between the supposed origin and the meaning of the phrase. Why should patrons of the Cock and the Bull have been any more likely to make up fanciful tales than anyone else?

Neither the Cock nor the Bull has distinguished itself in the making of the English language. The Bull now languishes under the outrageous 'Inn Famous Bull' pun on its inn sign. The Cock, in addition to the 'cock and bull story', has another cock and bull story all to itself. It is said to be the source of the nursery rhyme line 'ride a cock horse to Banbury Cross'. The story goes that horses were hired at the Cock Inn by travellers on route to nearby Banbury. Again, this is tosh. A cockhorse has been a nursery term since at least the early 16th century, as this citation from Sir Thomas Elyot's The Image of Governance, 1540, indicates:

"The dotyng pleasure to see my littell soonne ride on a cokhorse."
It isn't clear whether cockhorses were originally sticks with horses' heads that children played with or a reference to children being bounced on the knee of an adult. What they were definitely not were horses hired from a pub thirty miles away.

There doesn't seem to be a direct link from 'cock and bull' to 'bullshit', meaning rubbish or nonsense, which is a 20th century US term. 'Bull' is associated with made up stories from around the date of the earliest 'cock and bull' citation though, as in this quotation from J. Taylor, 1630:

"Wit and Mirth ... Made vp, and fashioned into Clinches, Bulls, Quirkes, Yerkes, Quips, and Ierkes."

[The Hen]

..and yeah, that's why the stalking bothers me.

So what do you want Lo? (Hint: Your intent/desire)

Do you want a ban placed on PSMP for just being a member here even though there has been no stalking occurring on this Board?

Is THAT your intent/desire?

[MajGenl.Meade]

[Lord Jim]

Do you want a ban placed on PSMP for just being a member

It seems to me that LoCa must see PMSP's mere presence on this board, regardless of what she says or does, as "stalking" in and of itself....

Only if you take that position does the whole "stalking" accusation make any logical sense...(at least as far as this board is concerned)

So I think that ideally yes, that's probably what she would like to see happen, but she must know that nobody is going to be banned just for being here.

[Scooter]

loCA was a welder, a pretty good welder too, until she had a crisis of confidence and couldn't be a welder anymore. Then she met a guy who persuades her...



Oh wait, wrong thread.

It's just that this was playing out so much like a B-grade movie that I got confused.

[The Hen]